“Better to be over the hill than buried under it”
There’s an episode of Friends where for Rachel’s 30th birthday she received a card with those words.
I used to tease my Dad with that phrase. He didn’t like getting older but my father most certainly had a sense of humor.
One of the last things I said to my dad was that I would carry him in my heart forever – just like his parents and all those who were important to him lived on in his.
I assumed he understood everything I said because when he was better he said that he always understood, the problem was sometimes he just couldn’t get the words out.
So I just talked to him.
He was only able to say a few words while I was there, but “Heart” was one of them. And he said it a day or so later.
I have yet to open my suitcase from that trip. I’m hoping some of my clothes still smell like him.
But my father was not a traditionalist.
After he passed he was cremated. His wishes were not to be interred. I have a small portion of his ashes.
I bought a necklace and a small urn to store them. It took me until today to fill the necklace.
But I realized something about a month ago.
In the necklace he will always be next to my heart.
But yes Dad, you are not “under the hill”.
You found the loop hole. I love you, and though we did not always see eye to eye, we certainly shared a sense of humor.
Laughs and Lobotomies 